Archive For September 3, 2013

The 6 Keys to Fulfilling Relationships

You might notice that as you begin to change your life, you will see changes in your relationships. Sometimes, unfortunately, change means some relationships will need to fall away, but the ones that do not – or the new ones – will likely get deeper and more fulfilling. For those who have not had the joy of being in a fulfilling relationship, I will spend a bit of time describing some of what you might look to foster in your relationships.

Of course, you are the final judge of what truly makes you happy and fulfilled in a relationship, but these might offer some useful signposts.

Open communication: Knowing what you think and feel and being willing to share it.

Trust: Behaving in a way that is trustworthy, fostering trust and being more trusting.

Respect: Understanding that the other person is an individual and should not be criticized for not being like you or any other person.

Love:I like the expression, “Love is a verb.” Healthy relationships seek to continually work to foster love through behavior.

Integrity: The understanding that each person has his or her won path and it is not loving to take them off their path.

Partnership: The desire to share life – its struggles and its joys.

excerpt from Life Fulfillment Formula: 120 Ways to Activate Your Potential (more…)

How To Be Powerful And Humble

It can seem like we need to either be powerful and confident or we need to be humble, but this is not really the case. We can be both. Unfortunately, most people do not pull it off.

When power and humility are in conflict within ourselves, that means we are in our ego self. Our ego self requires us to equate power with worthiness — those who are exhibiting strength are better than those who are exhibiting humility. When power and humility are in balance, though, our power is truth and love; our humility is wisdom and compassion.

So, how do we get humility and power to work together? We need to connect to our core self instead of our ego self.

When we are in the ego part of the self, it is almost like living one track of a multiple-track recording. In the ego, we think we need to be a certain way in order to be loved, accepted, and safe. We can get kind of caught up in this and even start to think that this is all there is of us. It is normal to be caught up in this in adolescence and early adulthood, but we often get caught in this part of ourselves for longer. When we realize that the ego is just a part of us — and not our entire self — our view of the world and ourselves changes profoundly.

One of the most important things to do when working with the ego is to confront it — question its self-definition as our truth. Some of the things we can ask ourselves about our ego in order to help confront it are:

  • What am I trying to protect?
  • What is it I feel I need to convince people of?
  • What is it I most want people to see and believe about me?
  • After a while of observing this ego, we get more in contact with our core self — our higher self, the truest part of who we are. When we live from this part of our self, balancing humility and power is a non-issue. They are both present.