Archive For February 27, 2016

Creativity is a Collective Process. And Here’s Why!

Creativity is a Collective Process. And Here’s Why!

Creativity is a big buzz word these days, particularly in the business world. I’ve come across a lot of articles that talk about the benefits of cultivating creativity in your personal and professional life. And for the most part, I tend to agree with them.

But what these articles tend to miss is that creativity is a collective process. They tend to perpetuate the myth that creativity is a mysterious, solo act. And this simply isn’t true.

Creativity has as much to do with how you respond to yourself as it does with how you respond to your environment. It requires that you say “yes” to yourself more. “Yes” to daydreaming a new solution to a vexing problem. “Yes” to the fact your “out-of-the-box” idea might actually be the right idea.

But creativity also requires that we say “yes” to others more, especially when it pertains to our passions and life purpose. It requires that we say “yes” more to inviting the input, feedback and support of those we trust most.

All too often, we safeguard against failure and risk as we contemplate acting on our “crazy” dream or goal. This limits our capacity for creativity and innovation and keeps us further from our dreams.

This is where creative thinking is essential. It connects us to a greater sense of possibility. It also connects us to our authentic self. When we tap into our creative self, we quickly realize that the “only one right way” myth really isn’t true. What is true is that there are always limitless options. Yet, we’re conditioned to ignore this limitlessness.

Here are several ways that you can boost your creative energy in your life.

    1. Support All Answers: There is a basic tenet behind becoming a more creative thinker: say yes before you say no. Many people think the first step is engaging their logical mind to determine if an idea is good or not. However, bad ideas are often the fodder for really great ideas. When we get all ideas out on the table, the options – and especially the good options – multiply exponentially.
    2. Encourage Involvement: Regardless of where you’re at with an idea, this point always applies. When you encourage involvement, you’re open to each and every person who is willing to put in their two cents. Why do you want to do this? Because this helps your idea become as powerful and innovative as possible. This doesn’t mean you take every opinion at equal value. It means you engage as many people as possible so that you can learn about the strengths and weaknesses of your idea while it’s in development.
    3. Think Outside the Box: When you do these first two things, you set the stage for the third. The primary ingredient for creativity is a willingness to look where no one has looked before. This is why it’s so important to listen to all ideas. Wacky ideas exist outside of the box and they help us find the good ideas that are also out there. If you feel stuck, you might benefit from seeing what ideas or people you have not been willing to enlist to get you to think more creatively.

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Transforming Failure into Inspiration

Transforming Failure into Inspiration

One thing I hear over-and-over again from people is that they’re afraid to fail.

They’re afraid of what others will think about them if they fumble towards their goals. They’re afraid to endure the pain of falling short or failing. And so, they make their fears their reality. They stop short on realizing their goals or don’t take action in the first place.

I certainly have feared failure. And my fear has, at times, paralyzed me.

If you’ve experience this, then you know how much it sucks.

Sometimes fear of failure is rooted in perfectionist tendencies. Perfectionists never feel good enough. When they realize they’ve made a mistake, it’s enough to take them down into a place of self-criticism and self-shame. Often times, this stops perfectionists from doing anything at all.

A perfectionist streak can hurt your health, career and relationships. This is because it exacerbates fears of failure so much so that you don’t reach for your goals at all. Compounding this is the internal judgment and negative dialog that’s part of the perfectionist’s tool box and are used as weapons against themselves for not achieving what they deeply want to achieve.

If you relate to this, there’s hope! You can change your perfectionist tendencies by embracing your limitations and failures. This isn’t an easy thing to do. It takes ongoing patience, but it can be learned.

Here are five things that you can do to become less of a perfectionist.

    1. Stop performing: Do you find yourself making everything polished and perfect? Does everyone think you’re amazing – all the time? It can be great to be amazing. But know what’s even better? Being liked for who you really are! Instead of perfection, aim for genuine.
    2. Lean into your mistakes: If you’re screwing up, let yourself screw up. It can even be fun. Take it from me – a self-professed serious person. Make a point of not taking YOURSELF to seriously.
    3. See your mistakes as opportunities: There is something to be gained from every time we fail. How can you turn the coal of your moment into a diamond?
    4. Give credit to and enjoy your strengths and limitations: A funny thing happens when you embrace either your strengths or limitations – you become better able to embrace its opposite. This means you increasingly step into your full self.
    5. See it as a gift: When you’re willing to accept your limitations, everyone around you breathes a bit easier. This is because when you accept your shortcomings, you create an environment of love and acceptance that helps helps everyone around you heal themselves.

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It’s Time To Live YOUR Life

It’s Time To Live YOUR Life

I’m an independent and individualistic person. And still, I have woken up some days to realize that I was living a life someone told me to live, and not one I decided I live. At the time, I didn’t know how to make my own choices for my life. And – more to the point – I was concerned that the way I wanted to live was somehow wrong.

I’ve come to learn that the fear and indecision I felt at the time was inevitable. To learn and to grow required that I don’t yet know.

To not know – and the feelings that emerge when you don’t know something – sets the stage for curiosity, exploration and change.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve talked a lot about how to connect with and express your personal truth. In the end, your personal truth comes down to choice! The choice to live your life according to your integrity. The choice to live your live according to your values, aspirations and beliefs. The choice to follow your curiosity and passion.

The truth is that the choices you make have a powerful impact on your life. Yet, your choice to TRULY LIVE YOUR LIFE has a greater net effect on your world.

When you choose to express your full self rather than some compromised version of yourself, you gain many gifts. Here are some of them:

1.     You’re more free and able to step into your success

2.     You’re healthier

3.     You have more to give and yet you don’t give compulsively

4.     You feel more fulfilled regardless of your situation

5.     You give people permission to be themselves

6.     Your life becomes easier

When you chose to express your full self, you inevitably feel happier. In turn, you’re less attached to the outcome of any particular situation. This is because your sense of happiness is your own. It’s not contingent upon what someone else decides to do, or to not do. Instead, you’re more at peace with how situations evolve and morph.

Further, being your full self gives you the opportunity to access your potential. And this frees up parts of you that you might not have previously known about. When you decide to tune into your authentic curiosity, your latent desires and abilities rise to greet you.

It takes a lot of energy to NOT be your self. In one way or another this shows up as stress. The more stressed you are, the harder it is to do the right thing for yourself. This becomes a vicious cycle that continually decreases your vitality and sometimes shows up as illness.

When you choose to be your full self, you’re full of life. You know your strengths and can use them to meet your challenges. This leaves you feeling stronger and not depleted.  The choice to be your full self also stops you from giving in ways that hurt you. You can’t hurt your self and be your full self. This is fundamentally because to BE YOU is to LOVE YOU.

Being your full self is its own reward! You feel better all the time. Even when you’re faced with life’s inevitable challenges, you have a sense of solidity and inner-joy that can not be snuffed out.  The life-affirming effects of this cannot be overstated!

By being your full selves you naturally give people permission to be their full selves. This is a permission that emerges through setting the right example. Conversely, the more critical you are of yourself, the more you hold yourselves back and the more inhibited people feel around you.

This all adds up to a very simple truth: that your life will be less challenging if you show up to it as your full self (which I’ll add is not always the easiest thing to do). Yet. when you express your full self and make choices that are best for you, living your life gets monumentally easier.

As I mentioned in the beginning of this piece, being your full self is a choice in each and every moment. Most of the time the choices we make are made unconsciously. But the more aware you become, the more conscious you are in each moment, the more you’re able to choose the perfection you already are.

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If you are ready to take this next step towards your life purpose, I can’t wait to meet you.

What Takes You Away from Being You?

What Takes You Away from Being You?

One of the most useful skills is the ability to “clear.”  I use this skill daily to weed out the things in my life that don’t serve me. These things are not necessarily external. Quite often they’re internal. By consistently eliminating what holds me back from being my full self, I’m increasingly able to live from my core.

What Takes You Away from Being You?

When it comes to your deeper truth – there are two things that you need. You need to have a sense of who you and the opportunity to express your full self. It’s worth asking, though, if there are situations in which self-expression might bring you harm? And if so, what can you do when we find yourself such a situation?

Here are a few common situations that tend to inhibit your free, full expression of your deepest truth.

Negative Connections:

    Some people bring you down. Other people push or drag you down. The latter is the most toxic. It’s important to clear your life of anyone or anything that is a constant downer unless you feel unhampered by their behavior. Just as a steady diet of straight sugar would leave you feeling horrible, if you digest ongoing negativity you’ll feel pretty awful inside.

Holding Grudges:

    Holding a grudge is easy to do. Yet, it’s so harmful for our overall health! When you don’t allow ourselves to forgive others, you do ourselves harm. You might not notice it at first, but the anger that encases your grudge takes you apart bit by bit.

Unresolved Issues:

    Do you need to apologize to someone or confront them about an unresolved issue? Do you have a lingering doubt? Loose ends are energy leaks. They make it harder to stay on track with things that help us fully express who we are.

Negating and Discrediting:

    Do you put yourself into situations where you are not seen or even outright discredited?  Are you made fun of or put down because of who you are? Just like racist jokes are not funny, neither are comments that undermine who you.

It’s important to recognize these situations when they happen in your life. Once you’ve spotted these drains on your full expression, you’ve got a lot of options.

“Clearing” is one of the most important skills I teach in my LifeWork Programs. We all need to learn how to remove physical and emotional toxins from our bodies and environments so that we can remain healthy.

In fact, the ability to “clear” is a step along the way towards your personal development.  As you move through your growth process, there will be times when you face challenges rooted in present circumstances or from the past.  You will make the best choices for yourself if you remember to return to your core self. You’ll also show yourself real self-care if you take a mental and emotional shower after a hard day of personal challenges.

Here’s what that looks like in action!

Disconnect:

    When you have negativity in your life that blocks you from being able to express your deeper nature, one clear step towards getting clear is taking space from your everyday life. This is one part of a larger operation. Because it’s also important that you learn to disconnect mentally, emotionally, and energetically. Even if someone is no longer in your life, they can continue to have a negative impact.  Maybe you replay the emotions or thoughts associated with the negative circumstance. Maybe there is just a feeling of negativity related to the person.
    There are so many clearing techniques to help you disconnect.  One of the exercises I recommend in my LifeWork Program is gratitude. Stop three times a day and notice five things for which you’re grateful. Notice how your feel before and after you reflect your gratitude back towards yourself.

Forgive:

    Holding onto the memory of hurt only hurts you. A grudge won’t ensure you make a different choice in the future. A grudge won’t protect you from future hurt.  In truth, the energy that it takes to hold a grudge could be put to better purposes.
    If you’re holding a grudge, see if you can find compassion for this other person.  A great forgiveness exercise is Ho’oponopono, a Hawaiian forgiveness prayer. Look it up online. The practice of the prayer essentially goes like this.
    I’m sorry
    Please forgive me
    Thank you
    I love you
    Repeat each one of these statements while thinking of the other person.

Tie up your loose ends!

    Create a list of everything unresolved or unfinished in your life – the big and the small. Make a point to clear up one thing at a time until you’ve checked all the boxes on your list.

Challenge:

    Sometimes the best thing you can do to get clear is to not pick up the problem in the first place. If you’re being discredited or put down, recognize that this is someone else’s perspective. It’s not yours. You can learn from this other perspective without accepting it. Instead, return to what is true for you to keep yourself free and clear of things that hold you back from being your full self.

Are you looking for a way to help other people transform their lives and have a profound impact in the world or a pathway to strengthening your work with others?

The Master Transformational Coaching program is designed to give you individualized training and top-notch resources to help you become profoundly successful doing what you are meant to do.

To learn more about this opportunity and how it might be right for you, CLICK HERE.

If you are ready to take this next step towards your life purpose, I can’t wait to meet you.