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The Personal Development Tools that Make the Difference

The Personal Development Tools that Make the Difference

When the time comes to do some (or some additional) personal development work, it can be challenging to know how to get started. Should you schedule an appointment with a therapist, join a personal development group, or take a weekend workshop? On which aspects of your life should you focus your attention? Do you need to dig into your past, process some emotion, or learn a new skill to help you move forward? Here are some considerations that will help you determine the right people and the right environments needed to help you grow.

Where is the Challenge in your Life? Is your challenge predominantly personal, relational, professional, or organizational? Sometimes, the things we struggle with touch multiple areas of our life. If this is the case, I’d say your challenge fits in the “personal area” of your life because your personal life affects all other parts of your life.

What is the Location of your Challenge? This is the trickiest question to find the answer to. Challenges exist in different parts of a person’s life. Certain therapeutic modalities are suited to certain types of problems. For example, if your challenge has to do with a recurring family issue, then you’ll want to select a method that works with your ancestral line. If you have lots of negative thoughts, then you’ll want to use a modality that helps change your patterns of thinking and process stuck emotions.

What is your Processing Style? There are different strokes for different folks. Not all methods work for all people. What draws you in or repulses you is important to take into the equation. Listening to yourself is always the key to getting the right help.

Here are some different therapeutic approaches and moments when they might be useful for you:

  • Core Energetics: Great for understanding defense patterns, clearing emotional baggage, and providing a deeper understanding of how to connect with the true you.

  • Shadow Work: Provides a powerful tool for clearing emotional baggage and releasing unhelpful patterns of relating.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Essential skills for thinking positively and getting things done.

  • Expressive Arts: Helpful for rooting out deep and often subconscious emotional patterns, and expanding possibilities.

  • Imago: Great for supporting couples in understanding how to communicate more effectively and be truly present to each other in a relationship.

  • Family Constellations: A powerful tool for helping clear ancestral issues and other challenges that may not have been learned directly in our lives.

  • Professional Coaching: Offers results-focused support to meet professional goals. Optimal for people seeking professional excellence.

  • Hypnosis: Extremely helpful in switching over belief systems and retraining the nervous system.

Are you looking for your next step in your personal development? I do my best in my LifeWork Community program to create a powerful transformational process to help people connect to the core of who they are and live from an alive, heart-centered place. I make a point to integrate different therapeutic approaches and teach core transformational skills. I would love for you to check it out!

The Essential Elements to a Fulfilling Life

The Essential Elements to a Fulfilling Life

Here’s a list of the elements I consider essential to living a deeply fulfilling life.


  • Figure out what you love to do. People are happier when they do what they love.
  • Do it often. Doing what you love makes you feel more fulfilled.
  • Remove things from your life that are mediocre, beige, flat, or merely tolerable. You only have so much time, attention, and energy. Don’t waste it on what doesn’t matter.
  • Courage:

  • Know what’s important to you.
  • Know why it’s important to you.
  • Because, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.” F. Roosevelt
  • Kindness:

  • Learn to be good to others and do it as much as possible.
  • Learn to be good to yourself and do it as much as possible.
  • Go out of your way every day to do something especially nice for a total stranger.
  • Gratitude:

  • Pay attention to all the wonderful things that are a part of your life both large and small.
  • Thank people for what they bring to your life.
  • Learn to find gratitude even for the things and people that you find difficult.
  • Contemplation:

  • Take a few moments each day to sit quietly.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Learn to listen fully to what someone is saying. Really take it in before responding.
  • Forgiveness:

  • Make a list of everyone in your life that you have an unresolved issue with and find a way to resolve that issue within yourself and (if possible) with them.
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Make it a practice to forgive others as quickly as possible.
  • Play:

  • Make time to be creative in ways that please you the most.
  • Laugh as much as possible.
  • Remember that your life is what you dream it to be.
  • Does one of these essential elements particularly resonate with you? If so, I suggest that you write it down and put it somewhere you will see it every day. Every little reminder you create for yourself will help you stay on track!