Ready to make your life what you always dreamed it could be? We don’t get there by accident. We get there by living an intentional life. In fact, the more effort that we put in the more likely we are to see amazing results in any aspect of our life. If you are ready to get started, or want to get back on track, here are some tips for living a more intentional life.
Morning Practice: The cornerstone of the intentional life. A morning practice is a way forcing a good start for your day. Virtually anything can be a morning practice. It can be a meditation, reading your priorities, saying an affirmation, or anything that fits with your personal lifestyle. By putting first things first, your morning practice shows you, and life itself, what is truly most important to you.
Develop your Vision: To create the life that you want, it is important to know what it is that you want. If you do not spend time getting clear about the direction and vision you want for your life, you won’t know if you’ve ever gotten there (and you’ll be hard pressed to make much progress at all). It is important to consciously reflect on your life and take stock of your desires for the future during regular intervals in your life, like one time per year.
Priorities: In addition to envisioning the way that you would like your life to be, it is important to be clear about your priorities for any given amount of time. We have daily, weekly, monthly, and even yearly, priorities. When we identify priorities in our life, everyday decisions become simpler and they reinforce our vision. When out priorities win out,we are certain to get what it is that we want from our life.
Create time: Literally. Living a more intentional life doesn’t mean living a busier life. It is important to block out times for “nothing,” so that your life does not become overly full. When life is too full we get stuck in the business of it all and can loose our hold on being more intentional. By making sure that there is space in our life to recharge and regroup, we avoid going off the rails and we can stay on track.
Pause: Before you take your sip of coffee, make a phone call, or do any other activity in your day, pause. Bring your attention to what you are doing and how you want to do it. Applying focus to every experience will help you in living a more intentional life. Even just the act of pausing and taking a nice deep breath will change your experience.
Declutter: Too often we are doing too much, getting lost in a sea of activities and responsibilities. Notice if you are spending too much time being social or taking care of others and begin to shift how many things you are saying yes to. Living a more intentional life is about making sure that the things your are saying yes to are in line with your priorities and your overall vision for what you want to create. Just as your time needs to have some empty space, so does your environment. Make sure that the things you are tending to are in service of what you truly want.
Gratitude: When we express our gratitude, it makes us aware of what we already have. Not only do we feel happier when this is the case but we also set a more positive tone that encourages us to stay on track with our intentional living even more.
Take care of yourself: You are at the center of your intentional life. It is virtually impossible to function in an intentional way without excellent self care. Taking care of yourself first will allow you to steer your life in the direction of your choosing.
Awareness: Whether it is meditation or the latest self help book, having a regular tool that helps you become more aware is helpful in creating a more intentional life. The more aware we are, the easier it is to both know what we want and identify obstacles to that goal. Work to see more of who you are so that you can better see your path.
Perhaps most important is this final question: Why do you want to have an intentional life in the first place? What will it provide you with? When you know why you want to be intentional then you will have the motivation that you need to put the building blocks in place to make it happen. Click here to learn how LifeWork Community can help you define your intentional life.
Being sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of others is the gift and the plight of the empath. If I had a nickel for every time someone said to me that they struggle in their life because of how empathic they are, I could open a bank account. Many empaths choose to isolate themselves because they do not know what to do to take care of themselves when in community. While some temporary isolation can actually help solve your problems in the short term, isolation is not an adequate long term solution for how to survive being an empath.
If it is challenging for you to take care of yourself because you are an empath, here are some tips that will help make it a bit easier.
Strengthen yourself: The stronger that you are, the less likely you are to take on other people’s stuff. Absorption of lower energies –the stuff you feel from other people that makes you feel less than optimal— happens more frequently when you are operating at these lower frequencies yourself. The less you are taking care of yourself, or the more unresolved stuff you have, the more likely you are to be overcome by other people’s stuff. Build yourself up and you will see that you can more easily work with what comes your way.
Do you really need to take it on: Empaths are built to intimately experience the world and people around them. This design comes with certain tendencies to process the feelings of those around them. This is not an imperative. Instead, you can learn not to take on EVERYONE’s stuff and begin to protect yourself from what does not serve you. As you start to learn to put a layer of protection between you and some parts of the world, you will likely notice how often you feel drawn to energies that do not serve you. This is its own teaching.
Can you take it on differently: It is worth asking the question, “Is there another way to do this?” Perhaps ingesting and processing things for other people is less than optimal. Maybe you could choose to actively support them in their journey, rather than sympathetically absorb their experience. Maybe you could ask for more support in processing what you are coming in contact with. In some cases, I have recommended that empaths begin to officially work with people in a healing capacity to start to develop structure and skills around what they do naturally.
Clean and clear regularly: If you are going to operate in the world in an optimal way then you will need to keep yourself clean and clear. If you are an empath you should have a toolbox of cleaning and clearing techniques to support you in being healthy and happy. Every time you start to feel heavy, low, sluggish, cleaning and clearing should be your first step.
Take some personal time: Yes, I did start this article talking about how to survive being an empath without isolating yourself – with good reason. However, some well placed, intentional alone time can do wonders for you. It is helpful to define a specific amount of time for your personal time so that you learn to move in and out of your personal time, without isolating.
Learning how to survive being an empath is about taking care of yourself with consistency. Newer, better, or fancier tools to work with are less important than good ones that work for you and which you apply regularly. If you are feeling the push to isolate, start putting some of those good tools into practice. Click here to sign up for Conscious Creative Magazine, our collaborative art piece that brings you inspiration, guidance, and resources – right to your inbox – every month.